Friday, February 20, 2009

so many questions lately?

Did that hat they put on you at the hospital get buried with you? That one has really been bothering me. I guess I didn't take it off cause I was in such shock! For some reason I thought it might make you warmer to the touch. It never occurred to me that it would get buried. Sometimes I wish I had seen you one last time besides in the hospital. Then I think it would not have been a good idea since your dead face is stuck enough in my head. Just like the last moments I had with you that dreadful morning. The moment I realized you would never be 4 months, 5 months or even a year. You are forever a baby in my mind.

I can't help but wonder if you do live on in another baby/child. Did your life save another? I some ways I feel like if it did not only does that baby get a piece of your heart but a piece if mine. I don't believe that your purpose in life was to save other babies. I don't know I just think there has to be another reason. Another really good reason for putting a family through such pain. For breaking a mother's heart. For leaving a father feeling guilty for the rest of his life, even though he is faultless. For leaving a sister lonely. Such a huge sacrifice for another. If that is the purpose then you truly are an angel.

More than anything I wish the impossible. I wish that you never left us. I wish I knew what it was like to be a mother of a one year old and a 5 year old. I wish I didn't know what it was like to loose a child. I wish that my worst fear didn't happen. I wish for more time with you. I wish I could kiss your head and hold you. I wish....

1 comment:

hollyhobbie said...

I just sit hear and cry and feel sad, but happy we all had time with her.