Friday, February 20, 2009

so many questions lately?

Did that hat they put on you at the hospital get buried with you? That one has really been bothering me. I guess I didn't take it off cause I was in such shock! For some reason I thought it might make you warmer to the touch. It never occurred to me that it would get buried. Sometimes I wish I had seen you one last time besides in the hospital. Then I think it would not have been a good idea since your dead face is stuck enough in my head. Just like the last moments I had with you that dreadful morning. The moment I realized you would never be 4 months, 5 months or even a year. You are forever a baby in my mind.

I can't help but wonder if you do live on in another baby/child. Did your life save another? I some ways I feel like if it did not only does that baby get a piece of your heart but a piece if mine. I don't believe that your purpose in life was to save other babies. I don't know I just think there has to be another reason. Another really good reason for putting a family through such pain. For breaking a mother's heart. For leaving a father feeling guilty for the rest of his life, even though he is faultless. For leaving a sister lonely. Such a huge sacrifice for another. If that is the purpose then you truly are an angel.

More than anything I wish the impossible. I wish that you never left us. I wish I knew what it was like to be a mother of a one year old and a 5 year old. I wish I didn't know what it was like to loose a child. I wish that my worst fear didn't happen. I wish for more time with you. I wish I could kiss your head and hold you. I wish....

Thursday, February 19, 2009

Missing you so deeply

It is almost your angel day and everyday I spend I realize how short of a time we had with you. I miss you even more. Next week will be the anniversary of your first smile. We were just about to leave for Gabby's birthday party and you looked at me and smiled. No one else saw it but me. It was so sweet! I spent the next few days trying to make you smile again. Most of the time you just starred into my face studying it. I loved looking into those big brown eyes. Sometimes I feel bad because you often cried nightly. I know you were loved but you spent most of your short time here unhappy. They say we only have a mcuh time here on earth and every life is predetermined. They also say that every life has a purpose. What was your purpose? Why did you only get so little time? I know these are questions I will never get answered till I meet you in heaven. 10 months since I last felt you in my arms and yet we are all still so very much broken hearted. I miss you sweet girl!